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Typewriter question markI’ve said before that the best motivation for doing something is a conscious knowledge that it is in our best interests.  That’s a sensible, positive source of motivation, as opposed to negative ones like fear.

How do we get that knowledge.  It’s one thing to know that if I go for a walk every morning it’s good for me and is consistent with my goal of being healthy, but what if I don’t know exactly what to do for the best in some situations?

What if there are days when you really don’t feel like there is something definite you can do right now that is the best thing to do?  What do you do when you’ve got that blockage thing going on?  You want to do something constructive, important, useful, practical and which you feel confident in.  But none of your options seem to fit in with those ideas.

There is always the routine, the mundane, the necessary, the essential to fall back on.  And that is certainly what I recommend as a way to keep moving forward, not do any damage, keep it all together whilst waiting for the immediate problem to dissolve. 

carrot on a stickA lot of readers tell me their biggest hurdle in getting organized is motivation.  (Yes, I actually did a poll). 

Do you feel like your motivation is something that’s out of your control?  I know exactly how you feel.  But I have to keep telling myself that it’s not true. 

You can control your own motivation, and all it takes is increasing your level of interest and awareness in what affects it.  If you care about improving your motivation, you can.  And I’m not talking about listening to some ra ra motivational hype.

External motivation won’t stick.

iStock 000024857327XSmallWhenever you get stuck on something or feel you’d like to be making more progress on it and you’re not sure what is holding you back, it’s a good idea to get back in touch with the reason you wanted the thing in the first place, the purpose of it, what it will mean to you, what it will give you.

When we lose touch with our purpose, we run the risk of carrying on pursuing things that no longer have the meaning they once held for us, doing things for the wrong reasons, achieving an outcome but missing the mark of what it was designed to do.  This means time and effort wasted.

reduced broom sweeping cerealThis clutter and mess thing is like the chicken and the egg.  The external - our environment, is affected by what is going on internally - how we feel about ourselves, and is a reflection of it.  At the same time, our external environment influences how we are feeling on the inside.

When we feel lost, unmotivated, indecisive, down on ourselves and so on, this is often reflected in our environment, with things getting dirty, messy, disorganized and yuck.

It might start with a bit of rubbish in the car and a few papers laying around, laundry piling up, skipping exercise, and before you know it you’re being nominated for Hoarders and you have TV cameras documenting the state you’ve gotten into, (Ok, hopefully not that bad, if you do something about it now).

On the inside it starts with a decision.  

The decision to put off some task like the dishes, putting something away or attending to some paperwork will have been preceded by a feeling.  So where did the feeling come from?  

Digital CalendarMy number one tip, first step towards being organized is to be running a diary or calendar and using it effectively. Hopefully you already have a diary or calendar running for 2012.

I've talked about it before, and I'll talk about it again, because my own calendar system is always evolving and cool new tools are always emerging.

Using a calendar is not just about keeping track of commitments you have made. It's one very important tool for driving your own life and keeping it on the path towards what matters to you. Be brave and fill up your calendar with fun things, necessary things, and things which will be unfamiliar to you but which you know will be good for you and good for the greater good. Your calendar can be a tool for stretching yourself. As we give ourselves opportunities to learn and grow, we are able to make a better contribution to our world. Yes, that's a bit deep, but it's good to look at the big picture "why" stuff as well as the fine detail "what and how" stuff. You don't just want to know what you're doing, you need to know why you're doing it.

To have your calendar or diary working for you effectively, you need to:-

Cluttered WardrobeSomething which commonly comes up for people struggling with clutter is the idea of letting go.  Releasing the physical stuff from our home and our life has all sorts of emotional meaning attached to it, and means also releasing a lot of emotional clutter from our mind.

That’s got to be a good thing, right?  If we know it will be good for us to let go of the emotional clutter associated with the physical stuff, why are we so reluctant to do it?  What’s holding us back?  If we understand intellectually that getting rid of physical stuff will free us up emotionally, why do we experience such resistance?

Home OrganizationMost of us feel more comfortable, more confident and more at ease when our home is organized.  Home organization can give us great pleasure and satisfaction when we manage to achieve it, and the lack of it can be a source of much stress and anxiety.  Living in a home which is organized gives us the freedom to give better quality attention to other areas of our life, such as work, family, hobbies, community, health and so on, creating better balance.    Home organization is important to many people, and is something I’ve always been interested in and enjoy writing about.

The basics of achieving organization in our home are time management, routines, systems and decision making.  Running a home in an organized way is something which is a continuous activity, can be learned, and gets easier as habits are established.

Organized Cutlery DrawerA basic concept around which organizing works, is that items are grouped together with like items.  This is pretty basic, and applies to home organizing or any other kind of organizing, but it’s easy to forget this simple thing and end up with various places where an item, or more of those items, might be.  Home organization begins with having a place for everything.  Once you have that done, then everything can be in its place.

Grouping items can be done in stages, beginning with getting things into the correct room, for example personal items belonging to each family member in his or her bedroom, anything to do with food or cooking or eating in the kitchen and so on.

Beyond that, we are narrowing down to cupboards, closets, cabinets, shelves, baskets, drawers etc.

Piles of PaperworkAfter a long bout of being unwell some time ago, I one day felt compelled to dig out and organize my desk, as I must so often do, and catch up with my filing so that I could more easily get on with my work.  Feeling inspired is one thing, but fortunately I know how to organize a year’s worth of paperwork, as organizing is my thing.  I jotted down how I did it as I went, so I might inspire or help someone else who has gotten a little (or a lot) out of control with papers piling up too.

My desk can need digging out after only a few days of neglect.  Although I do follow my own system for being organized, the sheer quantity of stuff landing on my desk every day soon piles up if not attended to.  Every day bills, forms, notes from the schools and the kindergarten, kids’ artwork, projects I’m working on and lots of little handwritten notes to myself (or sometimes really long ones) pile up on my desk, mixed up with ballet shoes to have ribbons sewn on them, toys to be fixed, and any random stuff for mummy to deal with – my desk is one big in tray and the organizing hub of my home.

Woman stringing beans outdoorsMy basic approach to being organized and having my home and my time run as smoothly and easily as possible is having a good, workable daily routine and establishing good habits (and re-establishing them over and over again if necessary).

Our routines are the stuff that holds our life together and keeps it functioning, and prevent the need for floundering around wondering what we should be doing.  Good routines kill self-doubt.

When we manage to get a routine going which is working for us, something really cool that can happen and which should be encouraged and nurtured, is that we somehow, accidentally, start finding pleasure in it.  When we do find pleasure in our daily routines, it makes it easier to reinforce the good habits we have developed, and the pleasure is also valuable in itself, as any genuine healthy pleasure makes us more mentally healthy and resilient.


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NSW, Australia

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Melbourne, Australia

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